While the job of caring for a loved one can be rewarding, it can also be draining. Guilt, sadness and anger can overcome a caregiver who feels out-of-balance. It’s hard to juggle the help we give and the demands of our own lives.
It’s not uncommon for caregivers to reach this point and feel burned out. If you care for someone and need a break from your role, taking steps to regain balance may help.
The first step is to recognize your feelings. Guilt, resentment, anger or depression are common feelings for caregivers. If you feel this way, it’s okay. By admitting when you feel bad, it may help you better address the problem and find ways to feel better.
Next, it’s of great value to schedule time every day to care for yourself and recharge. Even small things, like breathing deeply and focusing on your breaths, may bring you peace. Deep breathing may also help you sleep. Sleep is often lacking for caregivers! Your goal should be to get at least 7-8 hours of sleep per night. Exercise is a great help too. It’s amazing for stress relief, building energy and better sleep. The hard part may be scheduling time to exercise daily (even a walk), but it’s worth it!
In general, the trick for self-care is to know your limits. Set time to take care of yourself. Make sure to step away from your “job” and do things that make you feel better.
Finally, reach out to your network. You’re not alone. Sometimes the hospital social worker or nurse will offer coping ideas and solutions. There are great online resources and respite services too. Other times friends, neighbors or family may help. Even little things, like going to the post office for you, make a big difference. Spiritual organizations or support groups are also available. When problems seem overwhelming, stop everything. Break problems into small parts. Try to tackle only one issue at a time and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Overall, remember the good things in life and the things you’re thankful for. When you care for yourself and find balance, you can be a better, happier, caregiver for others.